Janny Proba, RN, BScN, CON(C), is oncology RN in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. She received her bachelor of science in nursing from McMaster University and has her certification in oncology nursing in Canada. Janny sits on numerous committees in support of best practice, advocating for staff and patients. She works as a staff nurse for an active inpatient oncology unit for patients with solid tumor malignancies. She has also worked in the past for patients in an outpatient setting receiving active treatment, as well as provided teaching for staff in an education role. Her interest lies primarily in education, with the focus on oncology and palliative care. --
They were due for a trim. Their long, tangled bird’s nests were crying for help. I took my daughters to get their hair cut last week, and as they sat there, having their long locks meticulously combed and trimmed, I tentatively broached the subject.
The oncologist tells him that the prognosis is poor, that even with the best treatment he would only be prolonging the inevitable. As the doctor outlines treatment modalities, Walter sits there, by himself, dazed. Only a persistent buzzing is heard during the interaction; words and reality become blurred. You see him, as a husband and father, sitting there by himself in what appears to be a stupor and at best a state of utter bewilderment and confusion. In the midst of it all, he becomes fixated on a mustard stain on the doctor’s lapel, and despite the horrible news, proceeds to point out the stain.